To a man in a committed relationship, nothing can hurt worse than his girlfriend eyeing other men.
Flirtatiousness might be a virtue for the single, but is definitely undesirable for those who are committed. Here are some steps to help you cope with a flirtatious girlfriend.
1. Attention Please
Before you confront your girlfriend, you need to determine your own contribution to her flirtatious behaviour. You need to ask yourself if you have been paying her enough attention. With the impending pressures of work, it is easy to let these things slide under the radar. In this case, her actions will stand justified – she is merely acting out on her deprivations. She needs attention. If this is not the case, then you need to talk to her directly.
2. Speak to Her
The best way to deal with this problem is to confront her directly. Let her know that her behaviour makes you feel uncomfortable and that her actions cause you to lose face in public. Demand reasons for her behaviour. If her reasons are not serious, and she’s only being socially playful, then you need to set some limits for her conduct. Putting your foot down is the best way to assert your expectations and express your dislike.
3. Threaten to Leave Her
Most women tend to hold their relationships dear enough to quit their gallivanting. If your girlfriend is like this, then threatening to break up with her might probably make her turn a new leaf. If she’s not looking to find a new boyfriend, a jolt like this will bring her to her senses and make her see things with your perspective.
4. In Your Shoes
Often threatening to give her a taste of her own medicine does the trick. Hypothetically profess to treat her the same way she treats you. How would she feel, if you were to address every girl in the room, but her? If merely saying this doesn’t have an effect, try showing it to her. Often jealousy works its magical ways to repair cracks like these, in relationships. If she values you enough, she will immediately curb her ways.
5. Break Up
If nothing seems to control her gallivanting, then the only ruse left to preserve your self-respect is to break up with her. Flirting today might invariably result in an affair tomorrow and you don’t want to incur heartache over that. A girl that does not respect your needs does not deserve to be with you. There is no point dragging a relationship based on false promises and one-sided efforts. She obviously does not value you enough to fear losing you. Steering clear of such women is the best approach, at the end of the day.
A good relationship involves a little compromise along with a great deal of respect for the partner. Ascertain her fidelity; if she professes to be totally committed to you, then find a way to make peace with her behaviour; if not, then you need to walk away, while you still have some dignity left.