Sexism is defined as inequality towards a specific gender in the society due to traditional norms or defined principles. In India, the issue would receive a lot more focus if it is not made to be an ‘us vs. them’ issue but rather a ‘we’ issue because men are as much affected by it as women. And feminists who are eager to bring forth gender equality as one of their major concerns should also discuss issues related to sexism against men because it’s an important issue that women should understand too.
1. Men are expected to work long hours and relocate more often than women. It has become a generally accepted principle to expect the same work to be done at a faster speed under more tight deadlines for men.
2. The ‘Man’ of the house is expected to hold on to a good job even if it means sacrificing his passion and in turn his life. Providing financial security to the family is the sole purpose of a father.
3. Boys are shown much less compassion than girls since an early age owing to the ‘Ye to ladka hai’ taboo. If a boy gets hurt while playing he is told to buck up and bear the pain, whereas a girl receives immediate attention. This makes men more distant and hostile to emotions.
4. Men are often told to not show any frailties in front of their family as it might be perceived as a weakness by the society. Men are always expected to do the right thing in the larger context of not hurting the close ones around.
5. A man is expected to be taller, smarter and more athletic than a woman and often made to believe that earning more than the female companion is a must for a healthy relationship.
6. A man’s word in case of any serious incident like domestic abuse or rape is not taken into account as sincerely as it should be and, as a consequence, cases of false rape charges and violence are rising quite rapidly.
7. Men are expected to provide financial support to their ex-wives after divorce whereas women are not expected to help men emotionally after parting ways.
8. Male subservience is considered chivalrous and widely expected so as to label the man gentlemanly like a commodity. More often than not women instigate such behavior and are then the first ones to complain about the control which men have over them.
9. Society generally assumes that a father cannot appropriately raise his children and especially a daughter. Such sexism seriously hurts those single parents who put in hard work to raise their children after their companion leaves unannounced.
10. Stereotyping men with phrases such as “All men are same” and “Men only want one thing” is a bad precedent being set in the society.